<h3>曾經(jīng)有個媽媽在群里抱怨說：最近孩子容易鬧情緒，而且不分場合，有時候是上學(xué)快要遲到了，有時候是在公共場合，一鬧情緒就哭個不停。</h3><h3>而她又是天生受不了孩子哭鬧的，一聽到孩子哭鬧，特別容易煩躁，孩子不管這些，越哭越厲害，當(dāng)她的耐心一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)地被耗盡時，就會對著孩子吼道：</h3><h3>“不許哭！你怎么這么不懂事？當(dāng)著這么多人的面哭，煩不煩？再這樣就把你丟在這，不要你了！”</h3><h3>看媽媽這么生氣了，孩子的哭聲會小點(diǎn)，淚眼朦朧地被媽媽拉著往前走。</h3><h3>管孩子不是一件輕松的事，尤其是在孩子鬧情緒的時候，總是讓許多父母手足無措，有的選擇妥協(xié)，有的選擇打罵，有的選擇沉默，有的選擇哄騙......</h3><h3>面對孩子的情緒，你最常見的反應(yīng)是以下哪種呢？</h3> <ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">以暴制暴：</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“再鬧，就給我試試看！”“不乖就把你趕出門”之類的嚴(yán)懲、恐嚇和威脅話語。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">這些話語不但會扼殺孩子的自尊心和安全感，甚至?xí)尯⒆硬扇∽晕移茐幕虮粍拥墓粜袨檫M(jìn)行報(bào)復(fù)。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">當(dāng)孩子情緒的奴隸：</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“不哭，就帶你去吃麥當(dāng)勞！”“我買玩具給你就是了，別難過了！”用賄賂、哄勸的方式息事寧人，避免孩子體會不好的情緒，反而讓孩子學(xué)會了“情緒勒索”。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">不許哭：</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">其實(shí)哭，是孩子情緒發(fā)泄的一種途徑。一旦家長讓孩子不許哭，會帶來許多危害。</h3> <p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">比如，孩子內(nèi)心會變的害怕，膽小，變的不知道該如何應(yīng)對挫折。不讓孩子哭，也會造成孩子負(fù)面情緒的積累。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在精神分析理論中，有一個詞是“強(qiáng)迫性重復(fù)”，意思是人都會不由自主地沉浸在痛苦的情緒中，如果沒有人幫忙，很難從這個痛苦體驗(yàn)中逃脫。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">當(dāng)孩子無法在哭中獲得一些宣泄，孩子就會去別的地方尋找宣泄的途徑，比如去幼兒園欺負(fù)別人，或者在家中搞破壞，使用暴力等。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一旦經(jīng)常在父母面前哭的時候被強(qiáng)行制止，孩子就會變得隱忍，與父母的關(guān)系也會受到阻礙。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">情緒需要釋放，而傾聽，則是幫助孩子釋放壞情緒最好的方式。</span></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">為孩子的情緒貼標(biāo)簽：</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">”你這個壞孩子，為什么這么粗暴？”“真是愛哭鬼！惹人厭！”你貼在孩子身上的“負(fù)面標(biāo)簽”，會輕而易舉的扭曲孩子的自我概念。</h3> <ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">流于說教：</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“你看！我不是早就跟你說過了......”當(dāng)孩子傷心、難過、生氣的時候，情緒已經(jīng)主導(dǎo)了全部意識，根本不是灌輸規(guī)則與訓(xùn)誡說教的好時機(jī)。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">回力球效應(yīng)：</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“你再鬧?。「纱喟盐覛馑篮昧?！”在孩子鬧脾氣時，無法保持冷靜，反而回以憤怒，形成“你來我往”的惡性循環(huán)，最后“發(fā)脾氣也沒什么大不了”的想法也將深刻在孩子的心上。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">阻斷話語：</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> “怎么垂頭喪氣的？振作一點(diǎn)！”<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">對孩子的情緒視而不見或輕描淡寫，不但阻斷了親子溝通，也讓孩子相信情緒是不受歡迎的，進(jìn)而筑起一道心墻，變成一個對自己和他人的感受都顯得麻木的人。</span></h3><p style="margin: 0em 1em; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">歸咎他人：</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">”跌倒了不痛！都是地板害的！”當(dāng)孩子遇到挫折時，為了安撫孩子情緒而歸咎外界環(huán)境的做法，會讓孩子無法對自己負(fù)責(zé)，失去從錯誤中反省學(xué)習(xí)的機(jī)會，容易養(yǎng)成遇到挫折“只會怪別人”的惡習(xí)。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子情緒學(xué)習(xí)經(jīng)驗(yàn)深受父母的影響，父母同時也是穩(wěn)定孩子情緒的最主要來源。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">根據(jù)美國華盛頓大學(xué)心理學(xué)教授約翰·高特曼的追蹤調(diào)查發(fā)現(xiàn)，父母扮演情緒教練的孩子，比較有能力處理自己的情緒，挫折忍受度高，社交能力和學(xué)業(yè)表現(xiàn)也比較杰出。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">提高孩子的情緒能力，已成了現(xiàn)代父母的必修課。</h3><h3><br></h3> <h3>孩子鬧情緒時，我們需要這么做</h3><h3>培養(yǎng)情緒能力，愈早開始愈好，且要注重方法和技巧。在處理孩子的情緒問題時，父母可采取以下三個步驟：</h3><h3>換位思考，感同身受，學(xué)會傾聽</h3><h3>誰都會有心情不好，失落的時候，孩子也是如此，更何況孩子的心靈往往比成人更加脆弱！</h3> <p style="text-align: center;"><font color="#39b54a">孩子鬧情緒時，我們需要這么做</font></h3><h3>培養(yǎng)情緒能力，愈早開始愈好，且要注重方法和技巧。在處理孩子的情緒問題時，父母可采取以下三個步驟：</h3><h3><font color="#ed2308">換位思考，感同身受，學(xué)會傾聽</font></h3><h3>誰都會有心情不好，失落的時候，孩子也是如此，更何況孩子的心靈往往比成人更加脆弱！</h3> <h3>德國心理學(xué)家卡蘿拉·舒斯特說，其實(shí)孩子哭的時候，最先需要處理的是家長的情緒。</h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3>面對哭泣不止的孩子，請你冷靜下來，此時孩子最需要你的接納，只有接納，才能破解孩子的情緒密碼。</h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3>情緒是自然產(chǎn)生的感覺，是一個人對周遭事物的主觀感受，因此沒有對錯之分。</h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><b>它是一種能量，一旦涌現(xiàn)了，絕不會憑空消失，需要有效抒解的管道。</b></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3>如果不接納負(fù)向的情緒，在孩子出現(xiàn)負(fù)面的情緒時，大人往往會以“不可以這樣”，或是輕忽壓抑，而不能提供孩子一個實(shí)際練習(xí)面對和處理負(fù)向情緒的機(jī)會，或是體會孩子在處理這種情緒時需要一段心理歷程。</h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3>例如：當(dāng)我覺得害怕、緊張、擔(dān)心、嫉妒時，我覺得如何？我可以怎么辦？</h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3>如此一來，孩子表面上可能沒事，但內(nèi)心那股“氣”依然存在，“情緒垃圾”愈積愈多，最后一發(fā)不可收拾。</h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3>不過，同理孩子的情緒，并不代表同意孩子的行為，更不是放任孩子把情緒表現(xiàn)當(dāng)成工具，對父母予取予求。</h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3><br></h3><h3>要讓孩子明白：所有的感覺都是可以被接納的，但是不當(dāng)?shù)男袨楸仨毐灰?guī)范。</h3> <h3><br></h3><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">引導(dǎo)孩子理清原因</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">接下來，父母要像一面情緒鏡子，運(yùn)用言語反映孩子的真實(shí)感受，協(xié)助孩子覺察、認(rèn)清自己的情緒，例如：</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“看你哭得這么傷心，一定很難過，對不對？”響應(yīng)孩子的感受，可以讓孩子明了自己的感覺。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">之后，繼續(xù)用開放性的提問方式，例如：“今天是不是發(fā)生什么事了？”協(xié)助孩子正確表達(dá)情緒，理清情緒背后的原因。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">只有找到情緒反應(yīng)的真正原因，掌握孩子的心理需求，才能對癥下藥。</h3><p style="margin: 0em 1em; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如，毛毛有一次鬧情緒很嚴(yán)重，跟他小表哥打架，于是毛毛媽媽趕緊把孩子拉開，把孩子帶到臥室。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">看到孩子一直在哭，毛毛媽媽心里也不是滋味。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">只見孩子一直在吐槽小表哥的錯誤，毛毛媽媽就安靜的聽著，覺得孩子情緒已經(jīng)穩(wěn)定下來，才向孩子問清起因。</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">原來是因?yàn)樾”砀缬行峦婢?，他沒有。孩子感覺到毛毛媽媽不愛他了，只喜歡小表哥，才因此鬧情緒。</h3> <ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 2.2em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; list-style-type: circle; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="padding-left: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">引導(dǎo)孩子調(diào)整認(rèn)知，思考解決方案</span></h3></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">等孩子情緒緩和下來，引導(dǎo)他調(diào)整認(rèn)知，從另一種角度看待引起他困擾的事情，例如：</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“玩具被同學(xué)不小心弄壞了，你覺得很生氣。但是你打人沒辦法讓玩具恢復(fù)原狀。我們一起想想看有沒有更好的方法，好不好？”</h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></h3><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; widows: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">養(yǎng)育孩子是慢工出細(xì)活，多一份耐心，多一份收獲，當(dāng)孩子用哭鬧來發(fā)泄情緒時，更需要我們的傾聽。</strong></h3>