<h3>If you want to drain your mental energy, there is one easy way to do so: compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself with others will only give you two things: either you feel proud when you are above, or you feel jealous and intimidated when you are below. As you can see, both are negative emotions that won’t do you any good.<br></h3><h3>Unfortunately, our culture is full of comparisons. People like to compare themselves with others.</h3><h3>While some people may say that comparing is a way to motivate themselves, I think there is a better way to do that without draining our mental energy. Here it is:</h3><h3>Find a role model and use him as a pacer.</h3><h3>A role model is someone whose quality and achievements you admire. It’s no secret that the way to be great is by emulating those who are great. By finding the right ro le model, you will have concrete example of the qualities you want to achieve. Since those qualities are now tangible, it will be much easier for you to run after them. By selecting the right role model and running after him, you will quickly improve yourself.</h3><h3>Here are some steps to apply this principle:</h3> <h3>1. Stop looking at others’ statistics</h3><h3>This is the way to stop comparing yourself with others. I know this is not easy to do since we have the tendency to compare ourselves with others. But, as I’ve said above, this will only drain your mental energy. So resist the temptation to look at others’ statistics for comparison sake.</h3><h3>2. Look around for someone whom you want to emulate</h3><h3>Instead of comparing, you should find someone you want to emulate. This is perhaps the most difficult step here because it’s not easy to find the right role model. Your role model should:</h3><h3>have significant achievements that you want to emulate (in this case, you do need to look at his statistics).</h3><h3>not so far ahead that you can’t realistically hope to run after him</h3><h3>have performed well consistently for long time</h3><h3>have other characteristics that are similar to you or your situation.</h3><h3>The last point is important. There are perhaps some persons who have the achievements you want, but - looking at their characteristics - t</h3> <h3>做最好的自己：停止與他人的比較并且開始自己的奮斗之旅</h3><h3><br></h3><h3>如果你想耗盡你的腦力，有一個(gè)簡單的辦法，就是把你自己和其他人比，這種比較會給你帶來兩個(gè)后果：要么在你勝人一籌的時(shí)候，你感到自豪，要么在你比上不足的時(shí)候，你感到嫉妒和羞愧。正如你所知道的，這兩種后果帶給你的都是負(fù)面情緒，對你沒有任何好處。</h3><h3>不幸的是，我們的文化充滿了競爭。人們喜歡拿自己和別人比。</h3><h3>當(dāng)一些人提出和他人比較是一種激勵(lì)自己的方法的時(shí)候，我認(rèn)為有一種比其更好的方法，并且不用耗盡我們的腦力。方法如下：</h3><h3>找一個(gè)榜樣并且以他作為你自己的標(biāo)桿</h3><h3>所謂榜樣就是其身上的品質(zhì)和成就為你所敬仰。毫無疑問，成功最好的方法就是模仿成功人士。通過找到正確的榜樣，你將會塑造出你希望自己達(dá)到的形象。既然這些成功人士身上的品質(zhì)是有形的，對你來說去努力效仿他們就變得容易得多了。通過選擇合適的榜樣并且努力追隨榜樣的力量，你將會發(fā)現(xiàn)你自己迅速的提高了。</h3><h3>這里有一些可以適用的原則：</h3><h3>1.不要參照他人的數(shù)據(jù)</h3><h3>這個(gè)方法可以幫助你停止與他人進(jìn)行比較。我這道，一開始并不容易做到，因?yàn)槲覀兞?xí)慣性得把自己和他人比較。但是，正如我以上所說的，這種比較只會耗盡我們的腦力。所以，為了避免與他人比較，拒絕這種參照他人數(shù)據(jù)的誘惑。</h3><h3>2.找尋一個(gè)你的榜樣</h3><h3>你應(yīng)該找尋一個(gè)你所希望效仿的人而不是與他人比較。由于找尋一個(gè)合適的目標(biāo)并不簡單，所以也許這點(diǎn)并是最不容易做到的。你要找到的榜樣應(yīng)該具備如下條件：</h3><h3>你的榜樣擁有你希望達(dá)到的重大成就（這點(diǎn)上，你需要去看一下他的數(shù)據(jù)）。</h3><h3>你的榜樣與你的距離不至于遠(yuǎn)到，你無法到他的境界。</h3><h3>你的榜樣長期一直表現(xiàn)杰出。</h3><h3>你的榜樣身上擁有一些特征，而這些特征與你或者你現(xiàn)在的情況比較相似。</h3><h3>最后一點(diǎn)，也是最重要的一點(diǎn)。也許，你希望自己能和有些人一樣成功，但是看一下他們身上的特征，這些特征在你身上找不到。從這個(gè)層面上講，對你來說去模仿這樣的一些人是很難而且也也是不自然的。越是，你與你要效仿的人性格相近，那么你效仿起來也顯得越加自然。</h3><h3>當(dāng)你可以選擇一些目標(biāo)對象的時(shí)候，以我的觀點(diǎn)，最好只選取一個(gè)主要目標(biāo)。道理很簡單，一個(gè)目標(biāo)易得，一個(gè)榜樣易仿。當(dāng)然，你是獨(dú)一無二的，你也可以從其他對象中找到適合你的特別組合，但是，仍然集中于一個(gè)主要對象會對你有所幫助。</h3><h3></h3><h3></h3>