新目標(biāo)家長課堂《家里什么條件，就怎么養(yǎng)孩子》

愛之圃青少年素質(zhì)教育

<h3><span style="color: rgb(217, 33, 66); font-family: 微軟雅黑; font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; white-space: normal; widows: 1; background-color: rgb(247, 247, 247);">真正富養(yǎng)孩子的，并不是物質(zhì)，而是精神。</span><br></h3> <h3>01</h3><h3><br></h3><h3>“窮家富養(yǎng)”的背后，是父母的焦慮</h3><h3> </h3><h3>昨天在微博上，看到了一個引起網(wǎng)友激烈討論的話題。 </h3><h3>一位媽媽因為給兒子買了一雙1299的鞋，和老公發(fā)生了爭吵。 </h3><h3>事情是這樣的，他們夫妻每月的月收入是8000，每月需要定期還3000的房貸，養(yǎng)車2000元，還需要撫養(yǎng)兩個老人和孩子。</h3><h3>算來算去，一家人每個月的生活費不到3000。 </h3><h3>而她昨天帶孩子去買鞋的時候，為孩子買了一雙1299的鞋，為此，老公覺得她沒有考慮實際情況。 </h3><h3>可是她卻覺得，“窮誰也不能窮孩子，要買就要買最好的！”</h3> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有網(wǎng)友看到后說：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“一個月3000的生活費，還買1299的鞋，是要準備全家人這個月都吃土嗎？別打腫臉充胖子”。 </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但也有網(wǎng)友說：“就一個孩子，為何不給孩子最好的？”</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">網(wǎng)友的激烈討論，讓我想起之前看過的一個新聞。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一對四川的父母，他們每個月的月收入是5000，卻將孩子送進了當(dāng)?shù)刈钯F的私立幼兒園。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">為了和幼兒園的家長一樣，他們更是借貸了20萬，買了一輛寶馬來接送孩子。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">讓人驚訝，究竟什么樣的心理，會不惜用借貸的方式，讓孩子過上富二代的生活？</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">其實，這些“窮家富養(yǎng)”的家庭背后，是父母的焦慮。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">之所以選擇富養(yǎng)，是因為我們害怕孩子輸在起跑線。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">害怕孩子的未來落后，從而用富養(yǎng)的方式，拉近孩子間的差距。</span></h3> <section class="" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 50px; height: 50px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; background-image: url("https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/xTobqJDEK8Ro3hv6iclaZhvNtcsJWCads3xpzVsYY465ZLiaBcoEHbBr1OQgFRILdBBJxBSLGh7WEI1CkOMHomFg/640?wx_fmt=png"); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 15px; max-width: 100%; transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 20px; color: rgb(228, 108, 108); line-height: 1; letter-spacing: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-shadow: white 1px 1px, white 1px -1px, white -1px 1px, white -1px -1px, white 0px 1px, white 0px -1px, white 1px 0px, white -1px 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">窮家富養(yǎng)，只會養(yǎng)出</span></strong></span><strong style="letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">不懂感恩的孩子</span></strong></h3></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></h3><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“窮誰不能窮孩子”，會讓孩子變成了平民中的“富二代”，這樣錯誤的養(yǎng)育觀念，會讓孩子誤以為，自己就是富二代。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">時間久了，就會滋長孩子的虛榮心，讓孩子喜歡攀比，什么都想要最好的。</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">前段時間，看到一段令人心寒的新聞。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一名女孩，要去大學(xué)報到，不顧家里實際經(jīng)濟情況，要求父母為自己買“蘋果三件套”，并稱，要做頭等艙去上大學(xué)。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母想讓她做火車，可她死活都不愿意，還對父母說：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“我一個人坐火車，會遇到很多賊，我從來都沒有做過頭等艙，讓我體驗一次會死嗎？”</span></section> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最后甚至威脅父母說：“如果不同意，我就不上大學(xué)了。”</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母被逼無奈，只好滿足她的要求。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">窮家富養(yǎng)的結(jié)果，就是孩子不在乎父母有多辛苦，只知一味地索取。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">朋友的舅舅到了40多歲，妻子才生下了一個孩子，因為是老來得子，夫妻倆對孩子寶貝得不行。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子要什么給什么，孩子想干什么都允許。</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">結(jié)果導(dǎo)致孩子要求越來越高，要的東西越來越貴。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">今年8歲的他，想讓爸爸給他買一臺蘋果筆記本，可是夫妻兩人的月收入加起來，還不夠買一臺。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“窮家富養(yǎng)”，本是出于對孩子的愛。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但我們越是“窮家富養(yǎng)”，孩子就會越不知足，虛榮心越強。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他們不理解父母的不易，也不在乎。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他們認為父母就該給自己最好的，自己就配享受最好的。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></strong></span></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">這樣的“富養(yǎng)”，何嘗不是一種悲哀。</span></h3> <section class="" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 50px; height: 50px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; background-image: url("https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/xTobqJDEK8Ro3hv6iclaZhvNtcsJWCads3xpzVsYY465ZLiaBcoEHbBr1OQgFRILdBBJxBSLGh7WEI1CkOMHomFg/640?wx_fmt=png"); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 15px; max-width: 100%; transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 20px; color: rgb(228, 108, 108); line-height: 1; letter-spacing: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-shadow: white 1px 1px, white 1px -1px, white -1px 1px, white -1px -1px, white 0px 1px, white 0px -1px, white 1px 0px, white -1px 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 2px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">窮家富養(yǎng)，會毀掉孩子的生存能力</span></strong></h3></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></h3><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">今年夏天，山東濰坊一位70多歲的老奶奶，在街上為孩子找工作的一幕，令人心酸不已。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">她每天奔走于街頭，為兒子找工作，她遇見人就搭話，希望能遇見一個好心人，讓孩子步入社會。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">她的老伴去世了，和兒子相依為命。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如今全靠自己3000元的退休金過活，而兒子已經(jīng)在家待了二十年了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一個四十多歲的男人，有手有腳，卻如同寄生蟲一樣，每天在家不是吃就是睡，要么就是玩游戲。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">《特別狠心特別愛》一書中有一段話，是這樣說的：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><blockquote class="" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="75" data-source-title="" style="margin-top: 1em; margin-bottom: 1em; padding-top: 4px; padding-left: 10px; border-left: 3px solid rgb(219, 219, 219); color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); font-size: 15px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微軟雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">中國父母給予孩子的愛，不是太少，而是太多了，不忍心他們從小體驗生活的艱難，也不懂得適當(dāng)時機向他們索要，因此最終導(dǎo)致子女們一輩子艱難，一輩子想父母索要。</section></section></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">窮家富養(yǎng)的后果，有多可怕？</span></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">那就是將孩子養(yǎng)成一個沒有生存能力、不能吃苦、不愿付出、只知啃老的巨嬰。</span></strong></span></h3> <section data-tools="新媒體排版" data-id="2752110" data-style-type="undefined" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 50px; height: 50px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; background-image: url("https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/xTobqJDEK8Ro3hv6iclaZhvNtcsJWCads3xpzVsYY465ZLiaBcoEHbBr1OQgFRILdBBJxBSLGh7WEI1CkOMHomFg/640?wx_fmt=png"); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-top: 15px; max-width: 100%; transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 20px; color: rgb(228, 108, 108); line-height: 1; letter-spacing: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-shadow: white 1px 1px, white 1px -1px, white -1px 1px, white -1px -1px, white 0px 1px, white 0px -1px, white 1px 0px, white -1px 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 2px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的教育，是再富也要苦孩子</span></strong></h3></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></h3><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我們總以為只有富養(yǎng)，才是好的，但其實窮家窮養(yǎng)，一樣能夠養(yǎng)出優(yōu)秀的孩子。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">之前，徐州豐縣的雙胞胎，被眾多網(wǎng)友贊揚。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他們被保送至名校讀博，可是在暑假的時候，依然會去媽媽的工廠，幫媽媽干活。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他們穿著舊衣服，在炎熱的夏天，幫助媽媽送腳手架，雖然他們的身上，全是泥土和汗水，可是他們依然很開心。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">記者問他們，為什么來工廠做苦力？</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他們說：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“賺錢是其次，主要是因為媽媽，她為了這個家腰都累彎了，我們只有在工地上，才能親身體會媽媽多年的辛苦付出。” </span></section> <section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的富養(yǎng)，不是經(jīng)濟，而是精神，“窮家富養(yǎng)”只是學(xué)到了表面。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">《奇葩說》中詹青云的一段話說的很好，她說：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><blockquote class="" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="58" data-source-title="" style="margin-top: 1em; margin-bottom: 1em; padding-top: 4px; padding-left: 10px; border-left: 3px solid rgb(219, 219, 219); color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); font-size: 15px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微軟雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: 25px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我們以為買了同款kindle，跑鞋，就靠近了榜樣，可是我們和榜樣之間真實的距離是，她真的有去讀書，她真的有去跑步。</section></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">是??！</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(64, 62, 56); font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我們以為，給了孩子最好的物質(zhì)條件，孩子的未來，就能和富二代一樣。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可是我們不知道的是，</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正富養(yǎng)孩子的，并不是物質(zhì)，而是精神。</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">正如蔡少芬對兩個女兒的養(yǎng)育，有一次，她帶著兩個女兒爬山，一路山路非常難走，而且到處都是蚊子。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但是孩子們累了的時候，她并沒有告訴孩子們，我們不爬了，坐車走。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而是鼓勵孩子們，再堅持一下，繼續(xù)前進，最終會到達目的地。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-bottom: 25px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 微軟雅黑; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">無論我們經(jīng)濟條件如何，只要我們盡自己所能，教會孩子生存的能力，學(xué)會感恩，并擁有堅持和勇敢的品質(zhì)，便是對孩子最好的“富養(yǎng)”。</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; 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