<h3><strong>學(xué)會(huì)獨(dú)處</strong></h3></br><h3>河南南陽(yáng)? ? ? ?顧漢霞</h3></br>? ??<br></br>我喜歡與親朋好友歡快的相聚,喜歡與家人們幸福的團(tuán)圓,也喜歡與活潑可愛的學(xué)生一起搞活動(dòng)做游戲。但我更喜歡獨(dú)處。雖然已經(jīng)退休幾年了,但真正獨(dú)處的日子不多,開始被一所幼兒園招聘,后又被一所私立學(xué)校聘請(qǐng),一干就是幾年,寒暑假又都往返家鄉(xiāng),與母親和兒孫相聚,真正的獨(dú)處,是從今年下半年開始的。由于返聘的學(xué)校轉(zhuǎn)為公立學(xué)校,不再聘用退休老師了,所以我失業(yè)了。雖然知道退休預(yù)示著年齡和體力都到達(dá)了休息階段,不然國(guó)家怎么能讓退休呢?但還是有些失落,惶惶不可終日,總是夜眠不安,飯菜不香。可就在近日,我體會(huì)到獨(dú)處的幸福和自由,過(guò)上優(yōu)雅恬靜的獨(dú)處生活?。 早晨再不用把鬧鐘定到上班前半小時(shí),匆匆梳妝,草草進(jìn)餐?,F(xiàn)在可以一覺睡到自然醒,想吃飯就做,咸淡自己掌握,沒有人嫌你做飯稀稠,沒有人評(píng)判你的廚藝優(yōu)劣。想吃饃饃不用買,那些摸著虛吃著粘牙的饃饃早就看不中??嘤诿ぷ鲗?shí)在沒空,現(xiàn)在自己親自動(dòng)手蒸,會(huì)發(fā)面會(huì)揉饃,蒸了包子蒸花卷,硬面饃更好吃,一層一層用手撕,越嚼越覺甜絲絲。加點(diǎn)兒糖,切點(diǎn)兒蔥,再烙幾個(gè)蔥油餅。北方人愛吃面食,吃餃子是首選,大肉餡丶羊肉餡丶韭菜雞蛋陷,冰箱里放的滿滿當(dāng)當(dāng),形狀也是各式各樣,有花邊的丶扇形的,還有半圓的丶元寶形的??纯焓稚系募页2俗龇ǎ谷粣凵狭俗鲲?,學(xué)會(huì)了色香味搭配,還會(huì)做糖霜丶琥珀核桃仁。兒子夸我說(shuō):老娘的廚藝漸長(zhǎng)。獨(dú)處的日子里,看書是我最大的興趣,重讀中國(guó)文學(xué)史,使我對(duì)中華文化的發(fā)展有了新的認(rèn)識(shí),有時(shí)戴老花鏡眼睛也看花,后來(lái)便聽起書來(lái),一聽就是幾十分鐘,作家刁仁慶的《三十歲的女人》和《尋找叛徒》小說(shuō),我不到一月就聽完了,有時(shí)一邊聽一邊做家務(wù),聽完后來(lái)段輕音樂,真是愜意無(wú)窮!近段時(shí)間我又愛上了國(guó)畫,大鵬和及象書院的國(guó)畫課,我都報(bào)了名,一節(jié)兩小時(shí),邊聽邊行動(dòng),學(xué)調(diào)色,學(xué)技法,有時(shí)學(xué)畫虎,有時(shí)學(xué)畫鷹,有時(shí)畫牡丹芍藥,有時(shí)畫山水魚蟲。老師的功夫太深,學(xué)好真不輕松,不圖畫展不圖出名,只為豐富自己的精彩人生。簡(jiǎn)單的生活充實(shí)過(guò),獨(dú)處的日子也有風(fēng)景。不再為遲到點(diǎn)名急匆匆,不再為考核評(píng)比晉職稱。自己的時(shí)間自己做主,把過(guò)去喜歡漏看的電影都補(bǔ)上。高興時(shí)與演員同哼一首主題曲,惆悵時(shí)陪演員一起落淚把心傷。沏一壺紅茶,望縷縷茶霧,品絲絲茶香。閱一本新書,聞淡淡墨香,用心細(xì)細(xì)品讀,可窺視主人翁此時(shí)心聲,能理他們的悲喜和憂傷!有時(shí)還會(huì)激起我的寫作欲望,靈感一動(dòng)一篇文章便在大腦中生成,待時(shí)機(jī)成熟便一氣呵成!?獨(dú)處的日子里,可以翻閱老照片,查看朋友圈,昔日的好友有的無(wú)疾而終,有的悄然無(wú)聲,打招呼也不回應(yīng);微信群里又添加了許多新面孔,他們中有的是真名,有的是昵稱,有的還以晚輩的名字著稱:有兩寶的奶奶,還有小靖兒丶小玲瓏,我知道那是高中時(shí)的同學(xué),四十多年沒見過(guò)面,電話中細(xì)聽,還能想象到他們當(dāng)年的面容,可微信頭像中的真人,估計(jì)頭碰頭都難以叫出姓名。?獨(dú)處日子里,站在高層窗戶前,極目遠(yuǎn)眺,可以欣賞全市的風(fēng)景,從春到夏,從秋到冬。鱗次櫛比的高樓大廈,縱橫交錯(cuò)的柏油馬路,還有急駛而過(guò)的各種車輛和行人。早晨旭日初升的光芒,傍晚夕陽(yáng)西下的余輝,連同夜晚密密麻麻眨眼的星星。想出門逛街翻箱倒柜找衣裳,女人呀滿柜子衣服還嫌少,遇到一見鐘情的還要買上。若不想出門,我能兩三天不下樓,不梳頭,不洗臉,也不想做飯,穿著睡衣在屋里來(lái)回轉(zhuǎn),沙發(fā)上躺著享清閑。餓了兩根黃瓜幾個(gè)水果對(duì)付一天,有時(shí)一個(gè)電話,讓外賣小哥來(lái)送餐!? 獨(dú)處日子里,我可以在心靈的海洋徜徉,當(dāng)一切塵埃落定,當(dāng)一切歸于平靜,我才真正懂得:放棄其實(shí)也是一種美麗的收獲,只有學(xué)會(huì)和自己獨(dú)處,心靈才會(huì)潔凈,心智才會(huì)成熟,心胸才會(huì)寬廣。獨(dú)處,不是一個(gè)人骨子里的冷酷或孤獨(dú),而是一個(gè)人自由的享受,是人生中美好的時(shí)刻和體驗(yàn),雖則寂寞,但寂寞中卻又有一種充實(shí)。獨(dú)處可以盤點(diǎn)人生,整裝待發(fā),可以梳理情感,找到真情。獨(dú)處是靈魂生長(zhǎng)的必要空間,也是心靈修養(yǎng)的一種方式。我喜歡獨(dú)處,它不僅是我最好的休息做回自己,還可讓知識(shí)和能量加以補(bǔ)充。因?yàn)橹挥挟?dāng)我們一個(gè)人的時(shí)候,我們才能夠大膽地做自己喜歡的事情,獲得心靈的愉悅。林徽因曾說(shuō)過(guò)“真正的淡定,不是避開車馬喧囂,而是在心中修籬種菊。如果想衡量一個(gè)人的內(nèi)心有多強(qiáng)大,就看他能不能一個(gè)人獨(dú)處。”確實(shí)如此。獨(dú)處對(duì)于一個(gè)人來(lái)說(shuō),不僅能充實(shí)自己,提升自己,還能讓自己變得更有內(nèi)涵,生活得更加充盈。在以后的日子里,我們要懂得如何遵從內(nèi)心而生活,學(xué)會(huì)獨(dú)處,讓自己變得更優(yōu)秀,讓精彩的人生更加芬芳! <strong>往期精彩回顧:</strong><a data-itemshowtype="0" data-linktype="2" href="http://mp.weixin.qq.com/s?__biz=MzIyMjcxMTM3NA==&mid=2247525081&idx=3&sn=0d6b37a980e75be495cf20435ace4787&chksm=e82b79f8df5cf0eef573fb98ee11d17469c6bad1dc9fd678b635e28f347513523ba768916963&scene=21#wechat_redirect" 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